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1) Paperback Book The Total Woman by Pocket. It was 1975. I had a difficult marriage, a new baby, and was lonely living in a new city. I turned on the Phil Donahue Show and saw Marabel. The words she was speaking gave me a glimmer of hope. I bundled up my infant and headed out in a snowstorm to purchase the book. I read it and did all the activities without getting any positive response from my husband. However, just the fact that it gave me something to do empowered me and helped me out of the depression into which I was quickly sliding. The Scriptures in the book were unfamiliar to me since I am Jewish so I didn´t pay them any attention. Three years later I met and fell in love with Jesus Christ. I realized that the Scriptures I was now reading had been in The Total Woman. I got it off the shelf, looked for Marabel´s address, and wrote her a letter. She wrote back to me, on her personal stationary, in her own hand, the most gracious note. I am so glad I made the trek in the snow to buy the book. My husband has since become the most loving, attentive mate, married now 36 years. You can take what you like out of the book and leave the rest, but know this, Marabel is precious and her words are from the heart.¤ 2) Paperback Book The Total Woman by Pocket. If a feminist is someone who believes in equal pay for equal work, equal opportunity in the workplace, and respectful treatment for all women, then I am a feminist.
Am I "radical feminist"? No, I just believe that women should be taken as seriously as men are.
Am I "man-hating radical feminist"? Nope. I adore my husband and he reciprocates. My sons-in-law are pretty cool, too.
And because he also believes in equal pay for equal work, equal opportunity in the workplace, and respectful treatment for all women, not just for me and his daughters but for all women, he´s a feminist, too.
But this book, written as it was decades ago for a small segment of the population, seeks to not only turn back all the gains women have made in the past 40 years, but also to shift the basis of marriage to manipulation and dishonesty.
My very successful marriage is based on the love, admiration, and respect my husband and I have for one another. Our relationship is based on those feelings, not on my fear that another woman will grab him or that he´ll punch me out, or his fear that I may make more money than he does or usurp his "role" - whatever that is - in our household.
It goes without saying that if you love someone, you treat them the best way possible and try to create a harmonious home. You don´t need to disturb him at work - especially if you´re at work yourself - to give him phone sex. You don´t forbid him from ever seeing you at less than your perfect best. (If that´s what your marriage depends on, what happens when you age and lose your sex-kitten looks?) You don´t automatically surrender your brain and defer to his "greater authority" when you disagree, but instead engage him in respectful discussion to try to understand his perspective and clarify your own. You don´t hide your strength and treat him like a stupid, easily manipulated dog. You don´t disrespect him by assuming that he can be deceived by stupid dishonesty.
All of the above is what Ms. Morgan recommends in this book.
If I did most of what Ms. Morgan advocates, my husband would be out the door. He appreciates me with all my flaws, my intelligence, my strength, my willingness to let him see the negatives as well as the positives about myself, and my honesty. This book is about deception, manipulation, and dishonesty.
This is Christian? I think not. I hope not.¤ 3) Paperback Book The Total Woman by Pocket. I was given this book by Marabel´s in-laws, whom I met on my honeymoon. I found this book to be a wonderful guideline for being a wife and helpmate for my husband. I have bought several copies to give to friends and relatives when they got married. I recommend it along with Debra White Smith´s "More than Rubies"¤ 4) Paperback Book The Total Woman by Pocket. My wife said this book was garbage. I thought it was the answer to our troubled marriage. Guess who won?¤ 5) Paperback Book The Total Woman by Pocket. I´m really surprised at how many women are apalled by this book.
I have always been a strong-willed, opinionated, outspoken, independent woman. I am well-educated and well-spoken. I make twice the income that my husband does, and I work longer hours. I am 26 years old.
I have been married for 15 months, and the two weeks since I finished reading this book have been the best 2 weeks of our marriage... (the first 14.5 months weren´t too shabby tough.)
I suggest to people reading this book, instead getting so defensive over the items which do not fit into your relationship, your idea of a woman´s place in the home, etc, just look at the bigger picture, sure you may not have the time to be in full makeup and heels before your husband leaves home in the morning, but maybe you COULD at least brush your teeth and take 20 seconds to give him a passionate kiss before he´s out the door. Seriously... the women in his office probably aren´t running around in their sweats with fuzz still on their teeth.
By adjusting MY attitude, and MY willingness to serve in our home, it has totally transformed both of our attitudes and the way our home is run. I´ve totally quit nagging, and the things I used to have to nag my husband to do automatically get done, and he does it with a smile. I don´t grumble anymore when I load BOTH of our dishes into the dishwasher, and I´ve noticed that he´s made a HUGE effort to clean the table himself too!
We are more intimate now than we even were on our honeymoon... not because I´m faking a desire to be with him, (nor am I dressing up in naughty costumes), but because we have totally rewired our attitudes and we sincerely DESIRE one another more because we are happier with ourselves and each other, and feel like we are working more as a team. The first few days, I did feel like I had to WORK on my attitude... My old temper or grumbling ways would start to surface and I would choke them back down... it felt unnatural and ´fake.´ That was, until about the third day, when I noticd I wasn´t having to choke back my complaints and nagging, and the smile on my face was genuine, not intentional.
I really believe the reason so many women get so uptight about some of the ideas and suggestions in this book are because they hit too close to home... Because you choose to focus on yur husband´s good points doesn´t make you a door-mat, it makes you a happier person, and in turn makes him a happier person (and you may just notice some of those bad qualities drifting away). Have an open mind when you read this, and give it a try... We didn´t think our marriage could get any better, and now we can´t imagine ever going back.
The most valuable piece of advice the author offered for me, (paraphrased) "Try looking at your husband and seeing him the way a lady at his office, or a lonely female neighbor might see him." I think about this daily and it helps me see my wonderful husband for the glorious man I fell in love with.
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