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1) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. Wow, this book is a series of hate messages ranging from accusations and convictions of working mothers (its yet another "everything that is wrong in society is a woman´s fault" message) to internal contradictions (home moms have it the hardest of anyone yet the author is quick to point out how much time she has for gym and friends, and starbucks now that we have machines to do all our housework). This book has little to do with real life, but it does 2 things for the author (1) it enables her to sell books to keep her fabulous starbucks lifestyle, and (2) it justifies her own existence, for this is nothing if not an obvious attempt to reconcile her conflicting feelings about her lifestyle and the working life she still feels something for. Amid this neurosis is a flurry of the most uncharitable, illconsidered opinion, sometimes supported by the likes of newspaper articles, and sometimes having no support at all. It really seems that by writing this the author wants to work, but wouldn´t have have time to sit at the park and sip pumpkin spiced latte with the girls, but if all women were doing it she wouldn´t feel so bad. What better excuse than that it makes her a more valiant, fabulous, virtuous mother than all the working moms out there. Talk about a set-up! If it´s not the breastfeeding nazis, or the natural birth KGB, its this stuff. This is just another stop on the guilt train--as usual tickets sold to women ONLY. No mother who loves her children and truly believes she is living her calling from God need bother.
¤ 2) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. Women have become so polarized in the past 30-40 years that we are our own worst enemies. Some women have had to work in every generation to support their families and some women hire other people to raise their children so they can play golf and have their hair done. FINE! Perhaps if women stopped being so critical of choices made by others, we could find more constructive ways to help children to grow up in loving and attentive environments.
On a personal note, I left my career to raise my two daughters and have never regretted a moment. They are wonderful, funny, competent women and they are looking forward to being parents. Parenting is the most difficult job in the world - no pay, no sleep, every penny goes to them and no vacations. (Holidays are working days for moms.) So much work, so little time. Best job in the world.¤ 3) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. Before reading this book I had every intention on staying at home with my children. Now I have all the more reason to stay at home. Parents need to parent their own children.
I applaud Suzanne Venker for her courage in writing this book. Finally the truth is told.¤ 4) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. The title says it all! I will no longer listen to Dr. Laura nor the anti-working mommy ideals that the author professes! How is it that Dr. Laura works? What about the author, was she not taking away from her children when she wrote this book? I guess it is easy to preach to common folks when you are successful and do not need to work. Preach it somewhere else!¤ 5) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. Work outside the home or stay at home mom? --there is no one right way -- It is sad that people can be so close minded to only see their side as the "right" side. There are many types of people and situations --there can´t be one right way --and not everyone has choices. Stay at home mothers may want a voice --but believe me, most working mothers want a voice --many act as though we work for our own benefit --yes, we may benefit in some ways --but many went to work specifically to benefit our families --things such as medical benefits, a decent neighborhood, etc. In the end, some may have been fortunate enough to offer other advantages such as educational opportunities or memorable family vacations after providing the basics --- Or perhaps, the opportunity for them to know their father who is able to work near regular hours since there is another income. For some, having the father work extensive hours and have minimal time with the kids so that the mother is home works well to meet their goals. For other families, it does not. For mine, we originally had no choice --a bit over 16 years ago, I went to work leaving our one year old thinking I was doing a horrible thing. I did it because there was no other way --my husband was a Architectural Draftsman making $15k per year (no med benefits). Because we believed me being home was the right thing, we did everything we could to be able to have me at home. He bartended on the weekend and took his office´s after work janitor job when the janitor quit --I did accounting work at home and tried coordinating waitressing eves. In the end, I had to go to work full time, we could not make it and we needed benefits. The world was very unsupportive of me and made me feel like a bad mother for doing this --I did not want to leave my daughter, I did not want to go to work, my husband listened to me cry at lunch each day --I did it for my family. --That one year old is now 17. I also have a 12 year old. I ended up continuing to work as by the time I may have had somewhat of a limited "choice", my kids were in school and my views had changed. My working has brought benefits to my kids, my home and my marraige. I have a very happy marriage of 20 years. My husband is an active parent. Have I missed previous moments because I worked? Yes --and that does make me sad --but I also know I have had other moments that are valuable--and my kids have had significant moments because I work --with me and others. No matter what, I am a happy person which I feel might be the most important ingredient to a good mother. But that is me --what works for me and my family certainly may not be the best answer for all because we are all different. I was fortunate to find a way of life that has worked for us. -- My kids? Very happy, well adjusted kids who I am very proud of. A couple days ago my daughter, senior in high school was discussing this issue and said I will definitely work --I was surprised and asked her why --she said that when she sees all her friends with stay at home mothers, the mothers seem very unhappy and do less for their kids than I do --(referring to college visit/app process, driving places, spending one on one time, working together, etc.) My response was that you have to wait and see --you don´t know what choices you may have --and being able to stay at home, if only for awhile can be a very wonderful opportunity --and -certainly -not all stay at home mothers are unhappy.
There is no right answer and it is a very small and close minded person who can´t understand that. As women, as mothers, I hope some day we can support each other rather than knock each other down to make ourselves feel superior.¤ 6) Hardcover Book 7 Myths of Working Mothers: Why Children and (Most) Careers Just Don't Mix by Spence Publishing Company. Dispelling our most cherished myths about working mothers, Suzanne Venker argues that woman can’t be successful in the workplace and at home simultaneously. They can achieve the balance they so desperately seek only by planning their careers around motherhood, rather than planning motherhood around their careers. Ms. Venker fearlessly tackles the most contentious issues of working motherhood: women’s equality, family economics, the notion of "quality time," women’s guilt and stress, and daycare. In each chapter, she exposes a different myth about working mothers, drawing on extensive research and her own experience as a mother and a teacher. The result is a powerful case for the link between the problems of today’s children and the absence of mothers from the home. "If motherhood were viewed as the full-time job it is," Ms. Venker contends, "it would not be considered something we could do on the side, and women would be less inclined to try to balance career and motherhood, only to discover, many stress-filled years later, that it cannot be done." 7 Myths of Working Mothers is a bold call to shift our priorities from the feverish pursuit of professional success to the more satisfying nurturing of our children. Dr. Laura praises 7 Myths of Working Mothers: "I am grateful for this book. Ms. Venker’s contribution to humanity, to families, to marriages, to women is huge. In a way, it is sad that she’s got to argue points to prove what ought to be a "given". On the other hand her arguments are beautifully crafted, and right on target for today’s anti-childrearing atmosphere. My hope for you, the reader, is that after you read this book, you will be unwavering in your commitment to do the right thing, and reap the incredible rewards."¤ Page Updated: Robert N. Goolsby, 23-Nov-2008, 18906265389781890626532, 050-3X1-171-071-8X1-381-781-ZEB-VSB-8 
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